George Dyer and his mother-in-law shared childcare duties
George Dyer and his mother-in-law helped raise his sons while Tessie Dyer worked in the cotton mill. They looked after the boys' clothes, food, and homework while the boys learned to catch the bus to school. Though they did not have a lot of money, George enjoyed buying Christmas gifts for the boys.
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Oral History Interview with George and Tessie Dyer, March 5, 1980. Interview H-0161. Southern Oral History Program Collection (#4007) in the Southern Oral History Program Collection, Southern Historical Collection, Wilson Library, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.
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- LU ANN JONES:
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Did you used to help out with the housework when both of you were
working?
- GEORGE DYER:
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Here at home, since I been married?
- LU ANN JONES:
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Right.
- GEORGE DYER:
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Yeah, some. I always kept the boys shoes shined and going to school. I
kept them busy; I'd teach them every night to get their lessons
I'd see if they get their spelling good and also
read. I'd want them to read two or three times. If they missed a word,
I'd let them go back over it. That-a-ways, they learnt more that way;
they good grades.
- LU ANN JONES:
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Did you cook then too?
- GEORGE DYER:
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No, her mother did the cooking when we was working, when they was coming
up. When we left here, we knowed they was in good hands, knowed they'd
be looked after.
- TESSIE DYER:
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I didn't have to worry about my children because I knew they'd be taken
care of.
- LU ANN JONES:
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Who took care of them?
- TESSIE DYER:
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My mother would.
- GEORGE DYER:
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One of them went up here to Plaza School. He'd go over here to the bus
line and see if he got on the bus safe till he got big enough to take
care of hisself. He looked after both of them, they got big enough to
look after theirself. She'd put the clothes out for them-her
mother-to put on next morning and went to school. She'd always
have them clean shirts and everything, underwear, socks. I helped her
out a lot. I'd come from the store and order the groceries; the man'd
deliver them back then. They had a good grocery store up here, had
everything you wanted, good meats and all kinds of good vegetables and
everything. Sometimes I'd come by and get them and take them. If I
didn't, I'd disappoint them, and I'd take them with me. And a little
stand up there sold good hot dogs and hamburgers. Of course we going to
have supper, but they'd still want something up there; it's fixed
different. We'd go in there and get them one, what they wanted. I
enjoyed that, and I enjoyed shopping on Christmas. We'd go and shop a
month before Christmas, get things ready for them and put it away. Lay
it away. Back then, I could have paid cash, but we see something we
want, we just had it laid back. I never will forget
the first bicycle I bought the oldest son. It was a good one; I got it
at Western Auto. It was a good one. The second boy used it too. It was
made out of good stuff. That bicycle was good. A few years later, we
bought them a bicycle apiece. The older one, we give the boy up the
street here, and he used it for a long time. Didn't cost but ten or
twelve dollars. Money was worth something back then. People really
worked hard back then, but money was worth something. Money ain't no
good now.