Memories of her mother
Barbee describes her mother and shares some memories from her childhood. She also discusses how her family life changed when her mother died.
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Oral History Interview with Annie Mack Barbee, May 28, 1979. Interview H-0190. Southern Oral History Program Collection (#4007) in the Southern Oral History Program Collection, Southern Historical Collection, Wilson Library, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.
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So
was granddaddy the backbone of the family or was your mother the
backbone. I think his first wife was Annie Miller. So who was the
backbone?
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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Of the family—he was. And he was the backbone of the family
when he and Janet was living together.
- BEVERLY JONES:
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That was his second wife.
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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Janet Mack, yeah, that was his second wife. Yeah, let's get
back to momma, that's where I'm going to go back
if you don't mind. To my real mother.
- BEVERLY JONES:
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Annie.
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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Well, I can vaguely remember some of my childhood with her before we came
to Durham. I can remember her cooking little johnnycakes and little
colored things. Hanging 'em in a little flour sack behind the
door in the kitchen. And somebody came through Manning selling these
large bible story books, where you read stories out of it, to children,
and had pictures, you know. And the one that answered the most
questions—she'd have a question period after
she'd read the story. And the one that answered the most
questions would get the most cookies. I can remember a whole lot of my
childhood with her at that particular time, because she
wasn't sick. And it was a very happy childhood, very happy.
She was a humble type of person. I've never heard her curse.
She'd get angry but the anger that she got, you
couldn't tell it because she didn't use any kind
of bad words or nothing. And her voice never would get real loud. She
was very humble. She was a humble type of person. Very, unusually
humble. And she gave us principles to go by which I can remember so
well. It was a very deeply religious background. I
can remember that. She'd whip us, about telling
stories—you know, children tell lies. And that's
the worst whipping you could get, by telling lies. And she
didn't do too much whipping, he always did
it—father. She didn't whip too much. But she would
have punishment you know—well you told a lie, you
don't get no cookie tonight. Give it to the other person, the
other child, a glass of milk and a cookie, but your
punishment—you wasn't getting any cookies
'till the next day. That's the way she punished.
She wouldn't give you nothing. And in Christmas time,
she'd make all our cookies and things, and little
johnnycakes. She had something, that you'd cut 'em
out. Christmas tree, all that. She's very creative. I can
remember her now, in the kitchen making Christmas cookies and different
things. And she always kept some cookies for us, the cookies she made,
'cause along then you didn't go to the store and
buy your children nothing. And at Christmas time when crops was bad and
we would cry and she we couldn't anything, we
didn't have no money. But she tried to make our Christmas
very happy, as best she could, without the expensive things that
children usually get. And we were happy 'cause we
didn't know any better. In the summertime we
didn't have nothing to play with, Go out there and get grass
and pull it up, and the long strands down
there—she'd go somewhere and get some old scraps
and show us how to tie a ribbon—that was our doll. Tie a
ribbon on the doll. And she'd go somewhere—she
could sew real well. And she'd make these little doll dresses
to put on that grass doll. It wasn't a doll, it was a grass
doll. And probably take a cardboard box, put wheels on it, and the dog
was our horse. Take that dog and the dog would ride us all over the
yard. Now those are the things we played with as children. Homemade
things. Just take anything and make something to
play with. And I can see that dog now. Put the dog to the cart and one
would ride awhile, and the other one would ride awhile. And those are
the things we grew up with. We didn't have any storebought
things. But she could always find something to make something. We were
happy with it. We didn't complain. We didn't know
anything about a whole lot of toys like children do now. We
didn't know. We were very happy.
- BEVERLY JONES:
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I know in my interview with granddaddy he mentioned that she graduated
from high school in 1911.
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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She did.
- BEVERLY JONES:
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So was she a force in your life that pushed you toward trying to gain a
type of knowledge in reference to education?
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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Oh yes, beyond a reasonable doubt. Oh yes, beyond a reasonable doubt. Oh
yeah, she was.
- BEVERLY JONES:
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Now let me see, her background was what again?
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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Her mother and father were—well I won't say they
were wealthy, 'cause when you say wealthy I don't
know how you say whether it consists of how much they own or how rich
they were. I'll just say they were well to do. They lived
well. And they owned a lot of land then. She didn't know what
it was to get out and work like other farmers in the
area—their daughters. 'Cause her mother and father
had a plenty.
- BEVERLY JONES:
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Well do you recall any instances of her feeling sort of downtrodden
basically, since she was living in a type of, I would say middle class
or well to do family, and then she became granddaddy's wife
and of course things weren't as good as it was living with
her parents. Were there any times in which she really felt very sad, or
just felt completely upset because of this movement from
…
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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Oh, I get the picture now. Because of the environment that she came out
of, the one that she went in when she married. I get the picture very
clearly. Well by me being so young, it's hard for me to
define that. But I do know that she stayed sick a lot, you know, kind of
stayed sick a lot. But by me being a child I don't know how
deeply rooted it was, or what it came from or nothing. But I do know she
kept it hid from us. She was very jolly with us, very happy, seemly so.
And when we came to Durham after Polly, my baby sister was born, then
she really was sick. She wasn't well at all. She was sick,
but she just held up, you know, because of us I imagine.
- BEVERLY JONES:
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Okay, she seemed to be a very strong and loving mother. How would you
describe her?
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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We don't have any of that humbleness from her. Some of us
don't. Laura may have it. She was a meek and humble person.
When I say meek, no outbursts, you know where you just rare up and pitch
a fit and go to pieces. We didn't get that from her. Now
I'll pitch a fit in a minute.
[laughter] I mean, I'll just take so much and
then when I take it then I have to let it out, which I reckon is what
makes you strong. But she wasn't that type.
- BEVERLY JONES:
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What about her physical features?
- ANNIE MACK BARBEE:
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She was a kind of low brown skinned woman with a round face.
I'm trying to think who in the family favors her. Her face is
very round, and she was little. Long black hair that hung down her back.
She could sit on her hair, and we used to play with it. So I think
she'd taken that after her mother—Indian blood.
She had some Indian blood in her. Brown skinned. I wouldn't
say she was pretty, I wouldn't call her pretty. But her
features—she had nice features, you know, her facial
features. But I wouldn't call her really
sure enough pretty. She was very small and little. She wasn't
tall, she wasn't a tall woman at all.