There's a positive and a negative to that, and I've watched it happen.
That transgenerational thing—that system is what has happened that is
scary. And that's the negative part of that, because people are coming
and staying longer. At one point in time they were staying longer. It
seems like an easy way—it takes away that self-independence that people
need and that push forward for strength and survival to do better. That
type of thing is what's the negative side to this whole thing, because
they seem to think that. It's not a think, it's the way they feel.
Because God knows, if you grow up in a certain environment that's what
your accustomed to; you think that's okay. Again, like we were speaking
earlier, for those people in the African American community that's fine
if you grew up with the same things, not having this or not having that
and this. That's just the way life is. But when you have to take on a
culture of someone else's and see that there is a difference, then you
have to—if you choose to meet those criterias, then you have to take
another step up. Those are steps that you've not been taught how to do.
So all in all, society looks at the African American community as if
it's lazy and demeaning and don't do anything—or it's all about
trouble—when in actuality it's not that as much as providing equal
opportunities at the same time. If you've already established and
given—it's almost like a game when someone else has been given the rules
before you have, so you've played that game and you know how it works.
It's almost like an amateur playing a professional in a game. He's been
playing for twenty years, so he knows the ins and outs of everything.
The amateur is coming in and having to learn it.
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they put them in the same arena. And society has done that with the
African American culture. They expect them to deliver and live up to the
expectations without giving them the game—the rules of the game to play
with. Until now—then we still have a partial set of rules. It's like,
take this and you make out of it what you can get out of it. Then you
are expected to be on that same level. And that's ridiculous; that's
impossible to do. So in essence, they will always be behind the gun to a
certain degree, because the more advanced things get, we're just for
some of us are just—yes, there have been opportunities, and people will
say that we're better educated now than we have ever been. But God knows
you should've accomplished something over the last fifty, twenty, one
hundred years. So that's expected. But are we there? No. We could not
possibly be there, because they started fifty years before we did. Now
we've got to play catch up and then get to where they were while they
continue to advance. So it bothers me that society expects us as an
African American to be there. Not that we're not there and we don't feel
good about ourselves, because within our own culture we're fantastic.
It's fine. But it's what society requires under that sort of governing
rules called the Constitution. They require everybody to be this, that
and the other, but they don't want to provide that same law or those
same things for us to be there. It's blatant. It's there. You cannot
take a person out of the United States and set them in China and say
function, because you don't have the tools to function with. So why can
you not understand that about a culture that has not had the same things
that the other cultures have had? When we ask to be on the same page, we
did not say I needed to sit beside you to know these things. I just ask
for the same equivalency that your going to give them, and quality. Give
it to me and we'll figure it out. But it didn't work that way. So we're
busy fighting, trying to help the
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90's—in this last decade in the 21st century—to understand that this is
what is expected of you by society. So we're trying to change the
attitudes and behaviors and perspectives, because that's not acceptable.
In our community there are some things that are, and we can deal with it
and don't have a problem with it. But society as a whole does not accept
this and that and the other things.