I think I gained a more realistic sense of how the world works outside
of my own community that I grew up in. I think I gained a sense and
skills about how to deal
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different people that are coming to a situation with a variety of
different issues, agendas, needs, wants, desires, that whole thing. I
learned the importance of remaining true to self, and remaining true to
my ideals and ways of doing things and things that I knew or felt were
right, of questioning but not totally dismantling it every minute my
moral compass, if you will. And being brave and challenging the things
that need to be challenged or need to be thought about. All of that kind
of stuff. The lessons were pretty huge. Maybe those same lessons would
have been learned at any high school, but I didn't go to just any high
school. I went to West Charlotte, and it was really a positive
experience. I have so many friends from other places in the country and
other places in the city even, and all over the world, who had horrible,
and horrific high school experiences. But that wasn't the case for me.
One could play the magic "if" game all day long, but in terms of my
reality when I was there I knew that it was special. I knew that it was
great. It also helped to set me up for other incidences in my life.
There have been times in my life when I've been involved in something,
and I've actually taken the time to say, "Man, this is great. This is
really cool. It could be so different right now. And I'm so appreciative
that it is what it is right now." And I think positive experiences allow
you to do that. When you have this cachet of negative experience upon
negative, experience upon negative experience, upon negative experience
upon negative experience, you don't get any breathing room. And you feel
like you're forever, if you're trying to get over it, and trying to be
productive, and trying to endure, and trying to rise above, you just
don't get a chance to relax into something being good and then
appreciating the fact that you're there. And West Charlotte facilitated
that for me. And during those times when things aren't good, and things
don't feel good, and life isn't
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and wonderful, it's in my cellular structure that really positive
experience with no excuses. Because even within that positive experience
everything wasn't great all the time. But over all, the over all patina
of the experience, if you will, I have to say without any hesitation was
really fabulous and really, really wonderful. And I've realized that
there are a lot of things that I can't say that about.