Misconceptions and misunderstandings about Asians by white Americans
Kong describes some of the "preformed notions" that white, native-born Americans have about members of some ethnic communities, remembering one white doctor she met who not only confused Hmong with Laotians, but refused to sympathize with their affection for large families. She thinks that schools can foster increased understanding with planned events and cultural exchanges.
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Oral History Interview with Ran Kong, November 25, 2000. Interview K-0269. Southern Oral History Program Collection (#4007) in the Southern Oral History Program Collection, Southern Historical Collection, Wilson Library, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.
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- BARBARA LAU:
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You've told me before that a lot of the girls that you go to
school with are from small towns in North Carolina.
- RAN KONG:
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Yes.
- BARBARA LAU:
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And most of them are white, right?
- RAN KONG:
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Yes.
- BARBARA LAU:
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What impact do you think new communities of people— I mean,
there's Cambodians, there's Vietnamese,
there's Hmong. What impact do these new communities, do you
think, have on North Carolina? How has that changed North Carolina? Do
you have any sense of that?
- RAN KONG:
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What these new communities, like Asian, like Hmong and like Laotian and
stuff like that, what impact they have on North Carolina? I
don't know. I think like these communities have been here for
a while now, and so people are now just getting used to them. But at the
same time, I think there's still a lot of North Carolina that
doesn't understand these communities. I
was at a dinner the other night, and I was near a doctor. And he turns
around, we were just talking— he was talking about how his
patients were all Laotian, and there were so many of them. And he was
like, they like to have so many kids. And you know, why is it that they
have so many kids? And I was like, well, from the Laotian people that I
know, they don't like to have many kids, okay. But Hmong
people they value kids. And so kids are a good thing, it's a
good thing to have a lot of kids. It's totally respectable in
their community, whereas in American culture, lots of kids, more
expenses, less kids, less expenses. And so I said to the doctor, I was
like, are you talking specifically about Hmong people? And he was like,
that's right, that's it —- I tell them,
you know, family planning, birth control. And he was like, they get
offended when I tell them that. And I was like, well, I can understand
that they would because to them children is a good thing.
It's good to have big families. It's good to have
lots of children. The expenses with each additional child,
that's something that they don't ever think about.
It's always like here's a new addition to the
family. You love the kid as soon as it's born. And so just
from that alone, you can tell that people, they see, and then they
already form opinions, and then they judge before they really
understand. And so with these communities, I'm sure people
already have like preformed notions of what they're like. And
you have to strive to understand people first before you can really
judge them.
- BARBARA LAU:
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Well, do you think the addition of these new communities has been a good
thing for North Carolina? Are there good things that these communities
bring? What do you think those might be?
- RAN KONG:
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I think it's good. You drive down some streets in North
Carolina now and you'll see Vietnamese restaurants. You know,
hello America, welcome to Vietnamese food, you know. It's a
taste of Vietnam here without having to go all the way to their country,
and so just in terms of new things, new ideas. And I don't
know, I like diversity. That's because I'm
different, but some people may not like it. But I think diversity is a
good thing. And I think if the American Government allows it, then
people should try to accept it.
- BARBARA LAU:
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What ways do you think teachers in schools could help kids who are
different feel more a part of things?
- RAN KONG:
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In a way, you hate to be pointed out, but at the same time, teachers in
school— I don't know— I think that once
you get into the classroom like you know you focus on the subject. But I
think overall for the school, I think it's good to have days
or events that are specifically for these people to perform or to talk.
Like at Salem College, we had an international dinner just last week.
And it was great, because some of these girls have never had food from
Ethiopia. So when they had indetto (phonetic), we were just like, oh,
she didn't like it. I see her plate is all going in the
trash. And then others were like, oh, this is so good, what do you call
it, and stuff. So just in terms of exposing them to who you really are,
like this is what you eat, this is what you wear and stuff, in a way it
gives definition to the word Ethiopian, or to the word Cambodian.
It's not just because we live in America, it's not
just a word to me now, it's who my friends are.
It's, who my teachers are. I understand what it is to be
American. It's not an empty identity. Do you know what
I'm saying? Whereas I think when some girls who meet me, you're Cambodian, well, what is
Cambodia specifically? What is behind the meaning of that word? Why is
it significant? So when you do these things, it defines it for them. It
defines Cambodian for them, it defines Ethiopian for them. When we get
up and do a dance, that's Cambodian. So just in terms of
making them understand that there's people.
There's people, there's ideas, there's
culture, there's so much. There's as much behind
Cambodian as there is behind American, you know? So in that sense.