Example, like—. For example, I have a—. Oh, this a sergeant, who works
at the place that I work at and, we make conversation, and he says well,
what would you do—? I said, well, if my husband goes out so many hours a
day and with his friends, then he shouldn't mind if I also go out with
my friends so many hours as long as I know, he knows where he goes. If I
can cook and clean after I come back from work, then I expect my
husband—regardless whether he's American or Indian, or Bangladeshi—to
come and help me with the same, and, and, and then—, because, you know,
otherwise it gets too much for one single person. Then he, then that
person—maybe because he was in his forties, or late forties—he says
you're very liberated, you know, even by American standards. A southern
girl from these parts wouldn't—, say that, or expect that. I said, I
said I don't believe that. Anybody educated, or anybody who has some
feeling of independence already established within their personality,
would expect that, regardless of where you—, he or she is from. And—,
patriarchal family is fine, but I guess it's the feeling of insecurity
and being used to a patriarchal society, I still assume that it's the
male's—which I don't see in America all the time—to look after the
family or household, because that's the role that had always been
playing from the very beginning. Even from—, pre-historic times. The men
went out and hunted and brought the food home, and the women did the
nurturing and the cooking, or whatever, grinding—. If you see those
roles, those roles haven't really changed and I, hundred percent do not
believe that, you know, that, it's
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Okay, it's fifty—. If you're earning well, fine. But still it's the
male's role to take care of the wife—. And be there for support—, and
you know, be the major supportive role. If not financially, but even
emotionally—, but as an emotional stalwart, I mean, he has to be there.
And I don't believe in single mothers, or single parents bringing up—.
If it happens, it's very hard work for the mother, but usually—. I mean,
it's just not—.