—And now I am going to get married, I will have all of the sex that I
want. [Laughter] So, I won't need to cross
dress anymore, you see. So, it was the tail wagging the dog on that. I
found out pretty quickly that that wasn't true, like within six months.
I told my wife after I married her, which was a big mistake and we spent
the next nine and a half years, after ten years getting a divorce, the
last five of which was hell, we had two children in between, my son and
my daughter, and when my son as ten and my daughter was seven, my wife
decided to go and experiment and do things, she had been actually
cheating, sexually cheating for like five years, but I refused to leave.
She did everything she could possibly do to get rid of me, but I refused
to give up my children. And maybe that was more the Angela side of me
than anything, I thought the closeness to my children and wanted to be
with them, and not feeling fulfilled if I wasn't with them. And, back
then divorce was a lot different than it is now, in many respects, there
wasn't anything like joint custody or anything like that. That was
wishful thinking back then. So, she took off, because she realized that
she couldn't get rid of me, and she left me with the two children, which
was the best gift I have ever gotten. It was really tough at first, being a single parent, as a matter of fact it was
around the time of the movie Kramer vs. Kramer, and I can remember
taking my son and my daughter to the movie and even though they were
like 11 and 8 at the time, it still made—they sat through the whole
thing and they came out of there crying together about it, because we
knew what we had in front of us. We just had been six months to a year
from my wife leaving, and then a year after that, she came to pick up
the kids, because she had them every other week and I insisted on that,
because I needed a break. [Laughter] But I
really found out what being a woman was like. You know, being a mother,
when I was standing in front of a dryer and washer in the basement on a
Thursday night at seven o'clock putting clothes in the dryer and taking
clothes out of the dryer and hanging them up and putting clothes in the
washer and I said, "There's very, very few men that I know that would
know what they are going to be doing five years from now on a Thursday
night at seven o'clock." I said, "But that is the life of a mother and a
woman." And I said, "Gee," historically back then, I said—it has changed
a lot now, but that is what it was like. So, I that was a real—It gave
me a chance to get in touch with my feminine side, my mothering side, my
nurturing side.